I was married 24 years ago to someone 7 years older than me. When we got married he drank alot. He has always been violent, impulsive and crude but I didn't pay attention. I was in love with him and didn't want to lose him. He insulted me, telling me that I was stupid and I have excriment in my head in place of a brain. Excuse me for saying it like this, but it hurt me very much and it didn't matter to him. After two years of marriage our first child was born. He was very bad with the child including hollering at him and hating him. He did many ugly things, that I cannot speak about. Two years later our second child was born. I don't know if it was because it was a girl, but he was good with her. Seven years later, the baby of the family was born. He was also very good with him. He never allowed me to interfere when he hit them or scolded them.